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Male Rape In Northern Ireland
A man was bundled into a van near Ballymena Rugby Club, taken to a layby and sexually assaulted. It seems the man was held down by one man while 2 other men raped him. The sexual assault lasted 10 minutes and left the man needing hospital treatment. Police are appealing for information.
This is obviously a shocking and disgusting act and I can only imagine the terror the victim went through not to mention the pain, both physical and emotional, that he must still be enduring.
There is one man raped, on average, roughly every 2 weeks in Northern Ireland alone.
Follow up:
Perhaps it's natural, but I think hearing about it happening to a man just made it hit home more what a serious crime rape is. Don't get me wrong, I'm well aware it's a very serious crime, but somehow it's easier to understand and to put yourself in the position of the victim in cases where it happens to someone 'like you'.
It's unfortunate that it would take that to bring it home, but it's important to remember that it's just as bad for a woman, and women are raped on a much more regular basis.
So if you're a man and, like me, this really hits home and leaves you with a rather disturbing feeling - remember that feeling whenever you hear of any other rape attack, regardless of the gender of the victim. I'd imagine it probably is harder, at least for some men, to empathise with female victims - but yes, regardless of how often you hear reports of rape, it is that serious.
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Someone somewhere knows who did this. They should do the right thing before the rapist strikes again and fair play to the victim for coming forward and reporting this crime.
parnell@elblogador.com
"There were 22 confirmed cases the year before"
1 a fortnight would be 26 so it's a rough equivalent - probably more like 1.5/fortnight and that's just "confirmed", which presumably means they have reported and verified. I wouldn't be surprised if many, like female victims, simply didn't report it.
Worse? What kind of sexuality do you think a woman has if you think being raped isn't going against her sexuality??????
I think it's possible a male victim would find it harder to come to terms with. I wouldn't suggest for a second any victim has it 'easy', just that there might be an added stigma or two for a male victim - but then again who am I to try and quantify a sense of shame I've never experienced?
I know people are unhappy about the word, 'worse', but that's the fact of it. It's not accepted so there is more stigma and shame involved.
I just did an article on male rape and used the story in NI as my lead in.
Women are supported in so many ways in communities (although that doesn't make it easier) but I can promise you through working with other rape victims and being a survivor myself that I didn't have to deal with snickers of laughter when I told my story and I didn't have to deal with the social issues that men have to deal with when it comes to sexuality.
Both are horrible horrible crimes but one gender is encouraged to recover and the other, men, is encouraged to never tell. Bravo to the NI victim for being so brave and telling his story to the authorities.
